How a Paper Helped Save 45,000 Jews from Expulsion – Two Stories of AM Yisrael Chai

A True Story. In all generations we have had great men of the world, who had no doubts whatsoever, either about God or the Holy Torah.
Rabbi Jonathan Eybschitz was known as a great genius for his sharp intellect. He lived about 250 years ago in the city of Metz, Germany, and served as rabbi of the city’s large Jewish community. The local hegemon, who persecuted the Jews, as was common in those days, issued an expulsion order for all the Jews of the city of Metz, requiring them all to leave the city immediately.
Rabbi Jonathan Eybschitz, in a desperate attempt to save his community, went to the hegemon’s house, hoping that he could convince him to lift the harsh decree. The hegemon, who knew the intellectual capacity of the rabbi of the Jewish community, entered into an argument with him, in which he argued the righteousness of his wicked decision. During the conversation, the hegemon quoted the beginning of a sentence from a certain foreign book, and asked Rabbi Jonathan if he could complete it. And to mention the number of words that appear in that sentence, the hegemon only said the beginning of it, and did not finish saying it.
Rabbi Jonathan Eybschitz immediately replied that the number of words in that sentence was the same as the number of letters in the sentence: “The people of Israel live forever and ever” – and he was not wrong. Rabbi Jonathan’s bold and provocative answer did its job: the hegemon did not remain unfulfilled, he asked the Rabbi of the Jews how many Jewish residents live in the entire city of Metz. Rabbi Jonathan answered him: Forty-five thousand, seven hundred and sixty (45,760).
With shining eyes, the hegemon smiled and said: As a person who writes amulets, as you are famous for, you must write for me on an amulet the size of a regular mezuzah, the sentence you just said: “The people of Israel live forever and ever” as the number of Jewish residents in the city of Metz! That is: the sentence will appear on the amulet forty-five thousand, seven hundred and sixty times! No less! If you succeed – the Jews will remain in the city of Metz. If you fail – the expulsion will take place, and immediately!
Rabbi Jonathan Eybschitz heard this and left the Hagmon. In less than an hour, Rabbi Jonathan Eybschitz returned to the Hagmon with the incredible amulet in his hand. He spread the amulet before the Hagmon and declared to him: If you start reading from the letter “A” in the center of the amulet, and read towards each of the letters “D” in its four corners, you will be able to count forty-five thousand, seven hundred and sixty times the sentence: “The people of Israel live forever and ever”! The stunned Hagmon took the amulet from the rabbi and looked at it in amazement. The result was that the Jews remained in Metz. By the way, it took the Hagmon about a year to count the number of times the sentence actually appears in the amulet!

While there isn’t one universally famous, documented historical event exactly matching the description of writing “Am Yisrael Chai” on a small piece of paper to directly save a large group of Jews, the sentiment and the act resonate deeply with the Jewish experience during times of persecution. The phrase “Am Yisrael Chai LeOlam” (עם ישראל חי לעולם), meaning “The people of Israel live forever,” is a powerful declaration of Jewish resilience and survival.

An AI Story.

Here’s a story that embodies the spirit of Am Yisrael Chai, drawing on the historical context of the Holocaust and the importance of symbols of hope and resistance:

The Hidden Message in the Ghetto

In the heart of a crowded and despairing ghetto during the Holocaust, a young woman named Leah worked in a factory where scraps of paper were discarded. Every day, under the watchful eyes of the guards, she risked her life by secretly collecting these tiny pieces.

Leah’s spirit was heavy with the constant loss and fear that permeated the ghetto. She saw families torn apart, hope dwindling, and the vibrant tapestry of Jewish life being systematically destroyed. One evening, huddled in the darkness of her meager dwelling, a thought sparked within her. She remembered her grandfather, a scholar, who always emphasized the enduring spirit of the Jewish people. The phrase “Am Yisrael Chai” echoed in her mind, a defiant affirmation against the forces trying to annihilate them.

With trembling hands, Leah took one of the small scraps of paper and a piece of charcoal she had managed to scavenge. Slowly and carefully, she wrote the Hebrew letters: עַם יִשְׂרָאֵל חַי – Am Yisrael Chai.

It was a tiny act, seemingly insignificant against the enormity of the Nazi regime. But for Leah, it was a lifeline. It was a way to hold onto her identity, her faith, and the belief that even in the darkest of times, the Jewish people would endure.

The next day, Leah found opportunities to leave these small pieces of paper in places where others might find them – tucked into cracks in the walls, left on abandoned carts, slipped into the pockets of discarded clothing. Each tiny message was a whisper of hope in the suffocating silence of despair.

At first, people were bewildered by the small scraps with the unfamiliar writing. But as more appeared, a sense of curiosity and then recognition began to spread. Some who knew Hebrew understood the powerful message. Others, even without understanding the words, felt a flicker of something – a shared secret, a sign that they were not entirely forgotten, that the spirit of their people was not extinguished.

The small pieces of paper became a silent form of resistance. They reminded people of who they were, of their shared heritage, and of the possibility of a future. It was a subtle act, unlikely to directly halt the machinery of destruction, but it nourished the inner strength and resilience of those who found them.

One day, a young boy named David found one of Leah’s messages. He couldn’t read the words, but the sight of the Hebrew letters, a language his grandfather used to teach him, filled him with a sudden surge of longing and a renewed sense of belonging. He kept the small paper hidden, a precious reminder of his identity.

Years later, after surviving the Holocaust, David carried that small, faded piece of paper with him. He learned the meaning of the words and understood the quiet courage of the person who had written them. For him, it was a symbol of the countless small acts of defiance and hope that helped the Jewish people endure the unimaginable.

While this story is a fictionalized account, it reflects the real spirit of resistance and the importance of symbols in maintaining hope during the Holocaust. The phrase “Am Yisrael Chai” became a powerful rallying cry and a testament to the unwavering belief in the survival of the Jewish people, often expressed in small, clandestine ways amidst unimaginable danger. The act of writing it down, even on the smallest piece of paper, could be an act of profound personal and communal defiance.

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During the Holocaust, Leah, a young Jewish woman, lived in a despairing ghetto. Risking her life daily, she collected discarded scraps of paper at the factory she worked in. Inspired by her grandfather’s teachings and the phrase “Am Yisrael Chai” (The People of Israel Live), Leah wrote the Hebrew letters for this declaration on the scraps using scavenged charcoal.
She secretly distributed these tiny messages, leaving them hidden in walls, carts, and clothes. Though small and fragile, they brought hope, identity, and connection to others, silently resisting the forces trying to erase Jewish heritage.
Years later, a survivor named David kept one of Leah’s messages as a cherished symbol of resilience and defiance, illustrating how even the smallest acts of courage can sustain faith and unity in the darkest of times. This fictionalized tale embodies the enduring spirit captured in the rallying cry “Am Yisrael Chai.”

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Story Translated from Torat Emet Freeware Site

The 64 Mitzvahs of Passover

There Are 64 Mitzvos On Pesach Night According To The Gra (Gaon MeVilna / The Vilna Gaon) From R’ Yitzchak Silverstein In The Name Of R’ Elchanan Wasserman

1-Kiddush

2- Kiddush On Wine

3- Bracha Of Borei Pri Hagafen

4- Kiddush Hayom (Sanctifying The Day)

5- Saying Over Yitziyas Mitzrayim In Kiddush

6- Bracha Of Shechayanu

7- Drinking First Cup

8- Leaning By The First Cup

9- Washing Hands For Karpas

10- Bracha Of Nitilas Yadaim (We Don’t Pasken/Decide Like This)

11-Bracha Of Borei Pri Hoadama

12-Eating Karpas

13- Dipping It In Salt Water

14- Bracha Achrona (We Don’t Pasken/Decide Like This)

15- Shankbone For Korban Pesach

16- Egg For Korban Chagiga

17- Yachatz To Show Backbreaking Work

18- Mah Nishtana- Mitzva Dioyraysa (According to Torah – As opposed to rabbinical commandment)

19- Saying Over The Story- Mitzva Dioyraysa (According to Torah – As opposed to rabbinical commandment)

20- To Start With The Negative Times And End Off With Praise

21-Saying The Hagada Over Matza

22- R Gamliel 3 Things (Pesach, Matza, Maror)

23- Required To Look At Ourselves As If We Were Leaving Egypt

24- Thank Hashem For Taking Us Out Of Egypt

25- Bracha Of Asher Gialanu

26- Bracha Of Second Cup

27- Drinking

28-Leaning

29- Washing Hands

30-Bracha Of Al Nitilas Yadaim

31-Bracha Of Hamotzie

32- Bracha Al Achilas Matza

33- Lechem Mishna

34-Eating One Kezayis (Mitzva Deoyraysa) (According to Torah – As opposed to rabbinical commandment)

35-Eating Second Kezayis

36-Leaning

37-Seuda

38- Bracha On Marror

39- Eating Maror

40- Charoses Zecher For Mitzrayim

41- Dipping Marror In Charoses

42- Korech

43- Leaning

44- Afikoman

45- Second Kezayis Afikoman

46- Leaning

47- Mayim Achronim

47- Kos For Bentching

49- Mezuman (Three People Saying Birchas Hamazon)

50-First Bracha Of Birchas Hamazon

51- Second Bracha Of Birchas Hamazon

52- Third Bracha Of Birchas Hamazon

53- Fourth Bracha Of Birchas Hamazon

54- Third Cup

55- Bracha On Third Cup

56-Leaning

57-Hallel

58-Zimun By Hallel

59- Bracha After Hallel

60-Drinking Fourth Cup

61-Bracha On Fourth Cup

62-Leaning

63- Al Hagefen

64- Simcha On The Seder Night

A Successful Marriage – The 6 Things Needed

There is a mitzvah to participate in a Jewish Wedding – We join in the mitzvah of Making rejoice the Hatan / Groom and Kallah / Bride.

It says in Mishlei / Proverbs – One who found a woman found good – matza isha matza tov. :(משלי פרק-יח:כב) What is tov? Tov is good. What is good? We can say that Tov is Torah. It says about the Torah – Ki Lekach Tov Natati Lahem Torati al taazovu – I gave you a good teaching, my Torah – do not abandon it. Or we could say “Vani kirva Elohim Li Tov” for me Closeness to G-d is good. When one weds a proper wife it helps the couple – reach a higher level in Torah & Closeness to G-d. The Definition of Spirituality is closeness to G-d.

Hashem says – Make me a mikdash – a sanctuary and I will dwell among you. Our goal in a marriage is to make our home a dwelling place for Hashem. There is no greater vessel that contains berakha – than shalom. Trying to Have shalom – even when things aren’t my way is a way to maintain berakha in the house and to have Hashem dwell among us.

Thus one foundation of a successful marriage is for the marriage to be based upon Torah. Meaning that the torah helps us to connect in the best way possible with all people. Shabbat helps us to connect with family – by eating together at the shabbat table, talking, saying words of Torah and singing together. The Hagim / Jewish Holidays are the same. Sending children to a Torah day school helps them to connect better with parents – to talk about all different topics. Family purity helps a couple to appreciate each other. Keeping kosher helps us to act with proper middoth. A marriage based upon Torah will be more successful. When the husband learns Torah – he learns how to act with his wife and vice versa. It means putting Hash-m in the central point in our lives and to grow spiritually together.

Being Friends. In the Sheva Berakhot blessing we say – sameach tesamach reim ahuvim – rejoice beloved friends. Marriage is about having your mate as your best friend. Someone you can share and connect and enjoy life together.

Giving. In marriage we try to focus on giving – not taking. On seeing what can I do for you – regardless of what you do for me. I have a responsibility. The Torah gives us responsibilities rather than rights. I want to give. I want to be a giver – regardless of reciprocation. Reciprocation usually comes in any case. Treat her like a queen – she will treat you like a king.

Appreciation. Foundations for a successful marriage is to appreciate the small things that the other does. Thank you for cooking dinner. Thank you for your helping to take care of the house. Thank you for bringing in the parnassa / livelihood. Part of appreciation is recognizing the good in the other and overlooking faults and slights. Seeing the good overweighs the negative – allows you to be happy and have a happier marriage.

Growing. How does a person grow? One works on our middoth – our character traits. One reason why we came to this world is to work on our middot. Marriage can be trying – and your wife helps you to become the best you can. She is an Ezer Kenegdo – a helpmate against him – to help him but to help put him on the proper path – in a gentle way when he veers.


One more small point is to have a Rabbi you respect to ask questions and disagreements that you may have. A rabbi will help you gain Daat Torah – what the Torah’s opinion about a particular subject.

In sheva berakhot it says – kol sasson vekol simha. Kol Hatan Ve Kol kalah. There are 10 words relating to happiness. Sasson relates to a happiness one has when they find a lost object. Simha relates to an unexpected joy. A man has found his rib – his soulmate. A woman has found a hidden treasure. I bless the Hatan and Kalah – that this joy will reign in their home at all times. Amen.

The Time of the Huppah is a time of goodwill. It is a proper time to pray to Hash-m for the hatan, kallah, yourself and for others.

Race the Washing Machine – Two Ways to Overcome Procrastination

The RACE is On

I put a load in the washing machine. It would take 55 minutes to wash the wash. Wow – 55 minutes I am free to do something else. In the olden days – we would get a tub. Fill it with water. Soak the clothes, scrub on the washing board and rinse. Barukh Hashe-m, now all that is done for you. Just throw some dirty clothes in the machine – put in detergent, press the start button and voila – your clothes are clean.

So I thought – let me see if I can get some important things done before the clothes are done. Who would win – me or the washing machine. I forgot who won. But it was a way to motivate me to get something done. You can do the same thing with the water kettle – are you faster than water boiling time?

Yes – that is a little task motivator. But really – to solve a problem we have to get to the root cause. Racing your washing machine is solving the symptom.

SOLVING The ROOT PROBLEM

I think a person has to learn to stop cold turkey. You’re in the middle of reading a book. Your best friend rings you, You answer the phone. You stopped reading cold turkey to answer the phone. So now you can stop cold turkey for other things as well. Like smoking, binging, drinking. If you can stop for one thing, you probably could for something else.

So we can stop cold turkey from procrastinating as well.

How?

Let’s ask a simple question. What is the root cause of procrastination? I thought it is laziness. Well that’s not so accurate – because if you are lazy – you wouldn’t be doing something else. Procrastination apparently is related to distraction. We distract ourselves with other things when we are supposed to do something of priority.

Apparently – we have an aversion to doing the task at hand – so we do something more “fun” or more in our “comfort zone.” Why – because either we lack the self-confidence, or lack the desire or lack the happiness to do the task at hand. Those are the root causes.

So – what’s the solution. Put on a big smile – even if it is fake until you get those negative thoughts out of your mind. Then jump right into the task you are supposed to do. (see the previous Post on Be Positive and Remove Negativity)

Don’t Be Negative – Be Positive or is it Be Positive and Don’t Be Negative

Happiness in His Abode

After eating a Bread meal, we say Birkat HaMazon / Grace After Meals. If 3 men ate together one invites the others to say the blessing together – zimmun. If newlyweds are present – we say in Zimmun – “Blessed is our God, in Whose abode is joy [and] we have eaten of His bounty and through His goodness we live.”

Happiness is Where Hash-m is / Hash-m is Where Happiness is

This means that dwelling in G-d’s presence brings joy. What is the reason for happiness or sadness? It is a reaction. Generally – it is our own choice. When someone loses money – the natural reaction is to be upset. But really – we can choose to be happy. If we bring Hash-m into the equation – Who does only good – If we think – Hash-m knows why I lost that money and He has a good purpose for it – I can be happy for a supposedly negative occurrence. Be creative and you can find a positive reason for a negative occurrence.

Joy & Spiritual Pleasure

I mentioned in other posts – that the reason why people lack happiness is because of a misconception – that physical pleasure brings joy. The real equation is – spiritual pleasure brings joy. Meaning – that giving the body pleasure will not bring happiness. Giving your soul pleasure will bring happiness. What are those things that give the soul pleasure – Learning Torah, Doing Mitzvot and Doing Acts of Kindness.

The Correlation of Closeness to Hash-m and Happiness

Why? Because the real happiness comes when one is close to Hash-m. When one feels far – they may experience sadness. Sadness itself is caused by the evil inclination – to drive a person away from G-d.

Doing Mitzvot for Joy

So it seems to be a catch 22 – a MeMah Nafshach. In either case – if you are sad – you feel far from G-d. If You are far from G-d you may feel sad. What is the solution? To be happy – do kindness, learn Torah and do Mitzvot. Even something small is a great step. Even giving a dollar to a poor person is a good start. Learn 5 minutes in an English Book about Torah. Wash your hands when you get up in the morning. (Take a Large cup of water. pour on right hand, then left, then right, then left, then right then left).

It takes time to develop the joy – but pursue the path above and you will get there.

A New Concept in Removing Negativity & Being Happy

The above was an introduction to this powerful message. Torah is more powerful than therapy. (Obviously a person in need should not refrain from seeing a good therapist with a proper Torah Hashkafa / Outlook) Therapy teaches us how to cope with difficult situations. Torah does the same and gives you the tools not to fall into these emotional challenges.

Usually a therapist or a friend will tell you or teach you tools to not to be negative and then you will be positive.

That is one approach. Another approach is to push yourself to be happy – which will automatically remove the negative. Why do we do bad things – because we feel badly or badly about ourselves. If we are happy we have no desire to do bad. It’s more deep than that. Meaning – when you are happy – you become an abode for Hash-m’s divine presence. With the divine presence with you – it is automatically going to flush away negativity from your system.

This is what it may mean – that the Simha / Joy is in (Hash-m’s) abode. If you make your heart an abode for Hashem by being happy – it will automatically drive away negative thoughts, desires & sadness. Be happy by smiling, thinking positive, pushing yourself to be thankful for all you have – and that will drive away the negativity.

Taking Advantage of Family Connection

Avraham Avinu – our Forefather was known for kindness. When one is kind – they actively seek opportunities to do kindness. The closer the person is to you, the greater the kindness. It is more important to do kindness with child than with friend, more important to do kindness with wife/husband than than a stranger.

Sarah – the wife of Avraham – lived 127 years. In the Weekly Parasha of Chayai Sarah – Avraham comes to eulogize her and cry for her. In the Troah pasuk / verse that states this – the word for cry in Hebrew – Bokheh (or Livkotah) – is spelled with one small letter – the Khaf. In the Baal Haturim explains that Avraham did not cry so much for Sarah. One explanation is because she was an old woman.

Another possible explanation of why Avraham didn’t cry so much at her passing – is because Avraham took full advantage of her presence when she was alive. He gained from her wisdom, he did kindness with her. He connected, appreciated and empathized with her. He spent quality time with her to the fullest extent.

So when she passed way he didn’t have so many regrets that he did not do what he could have to help her – he helped her to the maximum. He didn’t regret having not spent enough time with her – he did as much as he could to connect.

Many a time – why do people cry at times of departure from another person – is because we regret. We regret – we could have gained so much more. Avraham gained as much as he could have from Sarah, so his crying was limited.

What can we learn? Let’s put our priorities straight and spend more time with family connecting – and less on distractions and social media. Judaism helps a person to connect to family and others on a deeper level daily. On Shabbat – we spend quality family time together. We interact with them at Synagogue. Daily we have opportunities to learn Torah Together.

Torah is a deep way to connect with others. The connection is more than a mere conversation – it is a connection of souls. When we connect with Torah it is a much deeper connection. Concern, Empathy, Hashkafa / Jewish Outlook and Hizuk / encouragement conversations help connection. Politics, news and vain conversations don’t really help one to connect as well as Torah.

Why was the letter Khaf small? Why not the Vet or the Hei? I presume possibly that Avraham always kept his relationship fresh. Khaf – has the numerical value of 20. It is possible that he regarded her always the same as when she was 20.

5 Points for a Successful Jewish Marriage

The former Chief Rabbi of Morocco – R. Aharon Monsonego – said “When you teach people about what Torah says marriage – you should teach practical things.”

  1. Base the Marriage on Growing a Torah Family

When a couple gets married – they have many expectations and dreams. But they do not necessarily have a goal.

Some say “We love each other – that is what is most important.” Firstly is the love real love? [Rather than infatuation and love of oneself] and Secondly, If that is the case – why do many marriages fail? Apparently – one reason is they do not have central goal of building a Torah family.

So some will ask – why does it have to be that goal? Why not another goal – like “let’s raise a family that has a fun time together.” Firstly Define what is fun. Secondly – that will not prevent people from overstepping boundaries and doing whatever they consider fun – which may not be fun for the other family members.

Torah – gives us boundaries of what is acceptable. One such major boundary is what Hillel said to define the central point in Judaism – “What is hateful to you do, don’t do to others.” If that is the goal of each spouse – the marriage is surely starting out on the right foot.

2. Appreciate the Efforts of Others

People recognize the importance of appreciation, usually when they don’t receive proper appreciation. If we did put it into perspective – there are thousands of things to be appreciative about. One could make a goal of giving one compliment a day to each family member. Or two compliments a day.

If we really appreciated life – everyone would become a Torah Jew. Why? Because you could probably write a list of one-thousand things to be thankful for daily. So let’s say thanks and appreciate our family and Hash-m.

3. Focus on Giving – Not Taking

Some come into marriage expecting to be served. If one wants to take – they will find many reasons to complain. If you focus on giving – you will find many ways to do so – which helps one to have a healthy marriage.

4. Work on Middot

Marriage is one conduit for a person’s self-perfection. Our goal is to emulate Hash-m. Being magnanimous – will get you far. If one thinks that marriage is a perfect opportunity to become a better person things will change their outlook 180 degrees. What once was a terrible thing to be dishonored – becomes an opportunity to work on humility. What once was a terrible thing to be insulted – becomes an opportunity to work on not being overly sensitive. Obviously there are limits – but every encounter in life is an opportunity to express our displeasure or to grow into a more beautiful individual.

5. Have a Common Rabbi to Ask Questions.

Each couple should have a competent orthodox Rabbi in which to ask questions – when disagreements arise. In a marriage – disagreements do arise. So to have someone that has Daat Torah – will help the couple to guide the marriage in a way that is positive and a way that will create agreement – not disagreement.

People who will hear and apply – this will work. For people who will not – “You can bring a horse to water but you cant make him drink.”

A Reflection: The Healing Power of A National Day of Mourning

By: Rivka Hadad

It has been ten months. Ten months of shock and grief from October 7th. Ten months of fear and uncertainty for our soldiers. Ten months of horror and hope for our hostages. Ten months of exile and displacement due to threats on the Northern border. Recently, these challenges have been compounded by fears of a multi-front war instigated by Hezbollah and Iran. The feeling of fatigue and battle-weariness is palpable, yet there is also an underlying tension as if a ticking time bomb is about to explode. And then Tisha B’Av came.

Tisha B’Av, a day synonymous with calamity and brokenness, has surprisingly brought a ray of light and healing. Allow me to explain. Research by Colin Wastell in Australia shows that suppressing our emotional responses to trauma—whether through withdrawal or acting out—leads to physical and psychological stress. Trauma energy becomes trapped within us, disrupting our ability to connect with ourselves, others, and the world. The key to alleviating this is externalizing our trauma.

For the past ten months, Israel has been in a state of chronic trauma due to the war. This is challenging to heal as it leaves no room for imagining an alternative reality. Yet, through the principles of Tisha B’Av, I tapped into the three essential steps to healing complex trauma.

  1. Space for Expression
    In His infinite wisdom, G-d gave the Jewish nation Tisha B’Av—a day of national mourning. This day is set aside for us to confront our brokenness. We are commanded to sit on the floor and mourn our loss and pain. This helps externalize and distance us from our trauma, creating space for healing. A friend shared that hearing the stories of the heroes from October 7th provided a language for months of pent-up emotions. It allowed her to let the pain of the past and the anxiety about the future flow through her. Ironically, thanks to the saddest day on the Jewish calendar, she experienced a profound catharsis.
  2. Deep Connections
    Shortly after October 7th, Professor Danny Brom, founder and director of Herzog Hospital’s Meitav Israel Center for the Treatment of Psychotrauma, stated in a video that while not everyone requires professional help post trauma, everyone needs human connection. Trauma is an experience of disconnection, tearing us away from reality. Healing occurs through genuine human connection. This concept is echoed in Jewish wisdom: אין חבוש מתיר עצמו מבית האסורים a person cannot free themselves from jail [physical or psychological]; we need another to help us.
  3. Vulnerable Sharing
    In the lead-up to Tisha B’Av, there is a strong emphasis on Ahavat Chinam (unconditional love and Jewish unity). People become more open-hearted and build deeper connections. During Tisha B’Av, individuals are also more willing to share their vulnerable experiences both personally and collectively. This combination of connection and expression creates a fertile ground for healing.

While Tisha B’Av does not erase our pain, it creates a space for expression, sharing, and fosters deeper connections, birthing the path for healing to begin. Who would have thought that so much light can be brought from such darkness?

Rivka Hadad is a mental health counselor (MHC). She works with individuals working through various mental health struggles. She specializes in trauma recovery as well as treatment of eating disorders. 

She can be reached at rivkahadad18@gmail.com

Impalas and the Traumatized Traffic Light

What is the key to emotional freedom? 

Impalas are constantly exposed to life-threatening predators who are eager to devour them without a moment’s notice. At times, the predators succeed in catching the impala and delivering a ferocious blow before the impala can escape with its life. Interestingly, immediately post the attack the impala begins shaking as if in the throes of a terrible seizure. And then, they walk away as if nothing happened, without the slightest trace of post trauma effects. Through studying the impala, Peter Levine, author of The Waking Tiger describes the principle of healing and resilience. Upon experiencing a traumatic reality, our body generates immense energy due to our instinctual survival nature of fight or flight, yet we are paralyzed in the moments and the energy is trapped within. Trauma is being inhibited and weighed down by that energy, healing is through the release of that energy. The impala emerges emotionally and mentally unscathed due to their peculiar yet critical post trauma shaking, this releases all their pent up energy and allows them to live a trauma free life. 

Mr. Rogers famously said, “If it’s speakable, it’s manageable.” When an experience is too painful to speak about, it’s generally due to it being an intertwined part of our narrative and how we perceive ourselves. Dysfunction is the experience of being paralyzed within a dysfunctional reality, due to the high level of negative energy that is stuck. The negative energy is so entrenched in our essence that it defines how we understand ourselves, others and the world. This leaves little space for an alternative reality. Externalizing this narrative, creates space for a reality that’s more distant from self and thereby more malleable and susceptible for it to be altered.  

“The opposite of depression is expression.” This was penned by Judith Eger, A holocaust survivor who was downtrodden by her inhuman experience yet went on to become a world renowned psychologist and the author of The Choice. The key is to move through the traumatic experience through any form of expression, be it art, dance, karate, speech, writing or any other form which feels right. Finding language to release our deep angst creates a pathway to externalize our trauma and thereby beginning to heal and live.

This sounds pretty easy, just talk about or dance through the angst and you’re healed. Yet, those who’ve experienced trauma know that it’s a lot more complex. This can be understood using the traffic light. We have certain emotions and realities which are green – safe emotions that we’re comfortable experiencing and expressing. The list may include joy, satisfaction, care, anger, boredom, disappointment.

Next is yellow, these are emotions and realities that are uncomfortable, yet they’re manageable to experience and express. It may require coaching and inner work, but it’s possible to externalize these realities. This list may include love, appreciation, sadness, vulnerability, loneliness. 

Last are red experiences. These realities are so painful or dangerous we can’t even admit them to others or even to ourselves. They are suppressed within, hidden from view. Yet, these realities are very alive and present and affect the way we see ourselves, the world, and others. They wreck tremendous havoc in ourselves and our relationships, yet because they have no name or form they are free to do as they wish without ever being called out. This may include hope, intimacy, jealousy, shame, self-loathing. 

Emotional dysfunction is having a disproportionately larger ‘red light,’  in which emotions and life experiences are threatening and therefore suppressed. The goal is to move ‘red realities’ into the safer zones of yellow and green. Health comes from having a larger green light and a smaller red light. The goal is to move  Now for the big questions, how can one tap into red realities in order to express them? For that a person needs deep safety. 

Safety is the key to making even red realities hold-able so they can be seen and externalized. Building safety is both simple and deeply complicated. It’s a process that requires patience, compassion, and connection with self. 

Rivka Hadad is a practicing mental health counselor (MHC) in Israel. She works with individuals working through various mental health struggles. 

She can be reached at rivkahadad18@gmail.com

Parasha ? Matot-Masei – Honesty Brings Prosperity


? מטות-מסעי

This week’s Parashas – Matot-Masei starts saying that everything that comes out of a person’s mouth shall be done. Do the vow you made. It can also mean, that if you are careful to do what you promise, Hashem will fulfill the words of your Mouth.

Masei talks about 42 journeys that bnei Yisrael takes going from Mitzraim – Egypt to Israel. Egypt represents materialism and depravity. Israel represents spirituality and holiness. Like each person goes through 10 trials like the Avraham, Each Jewish person also goes through 42 stages in their life similar to the challenges of the places in the Desert we went through – when we make our effort in our journey to spirituality. The fact that our ancestors already traced the path makes it easier for us to overcome our challenges in life.