To make concepts simple to understand in Yeshiva, we described a concept in 10 words or less. Let me rephrase: To simplify, we described concepts in 10 words. (Yes that’s less than 10 words). How to overcome procrastination? Do The Smallest Thing You Can. (10 words) I have to write a paper for school. I think it’s like a mountain. You know what – I’ll just type the title. Once I do so it becomes easier to write the rest. I have to put away a stack of books. I’ll just lift up one – the rest becomes easier. Getting yourself to start is the issue. If you think – Yes – that I can do – you start the momentum to continue.
In the Torah (Parasha Ki Teizei) it talks of a concept difficult to understand and some say was never put into practice. The Ben Sorer uMore is the wayward and rebellious son – if one’s son starts drinking wine, eating much meat, and stealing from his parents before the age of 13 – the parents may take him to Beit Din / the Jewish court of law – and they may execute him if he fulfills the requirements.
Which parent would ever send their son to be executed? Probably no one.
Rashi explains – this son is on the path to self destruction – We see the boy is going to start stealing and killing people to feed his decadent habits – . “we judge him according to his end – it is better for the son to die with merits than to die with demerits” Meaning that the parents are more concerned with the portion of heaven the boy will receive. If he dies being righteous – he will merit eternal life. If he dies as a killer – he may not. So they take the choice for him to inherit a portion in heaven.
So how does this help us? Many parents disregard the spirituality of the their children. They want their children to be doctors and lawyers – yet to be a good Jew – that is secondary. This concept of Ben sorer umoreh is teaching us that our job as parents is to be primarily concerned about the Torah spirituality of the child over academics, over wealth over status.
A lot of parents will want a child to be a doctor – and that is fine – if that is what the child wants – but their main concern should be that their child be a good Jew – following halacha – Jewish law and also have a good livelihood.
The dilemma: to work in a disorderly place and be less productive or take some time to organize and be more productive. It is easy to just work. I want to work. But I have to stop at times to organize.
How to Organize
One way to organize an office. Take everything out. Get a dropbox – a cardboard box to throw into anything you need. Have a trash close by. Make 3 piles. Trash. Put away. Keep. After the sort – take out the trash. Then make the recycle items and trash items piles. Put them in respective bins.
Now remove things from dropbox. Categorize everything.
Put them into manageable – stackable boxes. You have two kinds of boxes 1. things used. 2. Things to store for long term. Things used on a daily basis – put them in accessible place in office. Things rarely used put into long term storage. If you don’t use it – consider putting it in a remote location.
A Second way to organize an office. Take everything out. Consider everything as things to throw away. Take back anything that you find necessary. Get a dropbox – a cardboard box to throw into anything you need. Have a trash close by. Make 3 piles. Trash. Put away. Keep. After the sort – take out the trash. Then make the recycle items and trash items piles. Put them in respective bins.
Label each storage box. For Label printers I found one program that is useful called glabels. You can do merge with a .csv file. So you can create numbers followed by a comma and the name of the box, load it to glabels and print them all at once.
Be stringent to not let loose things cloud your dest. It happens that things that need to put away get stored on my desk until I store them away. Store them away right away.
Before You leave the office – make sure 1. your desk is clear. 2. You put away 10 things. Little by little the ofice becomes clear.
Put things in the most accessible position. For instance if you have reams of paper put them in lying the direction that is most easy to open – ie, with the seam upwords. Put things with the information easily accessible – like eggs with the date pointing outward or paper reams with the paper type label pointing outward. Notice which way the arrow on the ream is pointing – the point of the arrow points to side that the printer prints on. ie, if it prints on the top of the ream & your printer prints on the top place the paper in the way that arrow points upward.
Productivity tips Today as opposed to yesteryear – we have so many functions in software – it is easier to get distracted. What I did was to install an old DOS word processor. I use pc-write. then I copy text into windows. you might need a DOS emulator like DOSBOX. You have to set up the program. I use PC-WRITE. You can even make a shorthand file – words.sho – that you create to write short letter combinations to type out the entire word. Like I associated leters e-d-u- to spell “Education”.
At Seuda Shelishit (the third meal of Shabbat) we discussed the concept of wills. According to civil law – if a person dies intestate – without a will – apparently the remaining assets are given to the remaining family members.
Clarifying Who Receives What
It is good to make a will. It clarifies what should be given to whom. It prevents bad blood between family members. One should be aware of the differences of a Jewish will – according to Halacha (Jewish Law) or a Halachic will and a civil will.
What Parties Receive what in a Halachic Intestate Case
According to halacha – the wife gets her ketuva (marriage document) amount and the the sons inherit the rest. The daughters – since they are expected to marry and be taken care of by their husband – will not receive a portion. The first born male recieves a double portion. Three boys & one million dollars. Boy 1 gets $500k and 2 & 3 get $250k.
How to give Money to Others : Do it Before the last Moment
So what is there to do if you want a Halachic will and want to give to your other children – like your daughters – you write in your halachic will 1 hour before he dies he is giving a gift to Devorah of $1 million. Thus he is giving before he dies and thus it is a gift while he is alive. Obviously you must consult your local Orthodox rabbi to make sure the will is correct according to halacha.
Giving For Torah Causes
You can do the same for a Jewish Torah organization – he writes one hour before one dies he gives $1 Million for Torah Education to this particular institution with EIN number. Consult a lawyer what are the civil legal repercussions of writing such a will. You want the Will to be legal and authoritative according to the court of Jewish Law and secular courts. Usually a court cannot deny a gifting letter. In Jewish law – two witnesses signing on the document is more authoritative than a simple signature. Apparently it should be also in a court of law – as anyone can claim that the document was a forgery.
The Beit Din vs the Secular Courts
A Jew should not take another Jew to a secular court for a dispute. One should go to a Torah court – where the Rabbis rule according to Torah law. If one party refuses to attend – the Jewish court gives an Ishur – a permission slip to go to the secular courts for adjudication. As in arbitration the decision of a Jewish court can be binding in civil law as an arbitration agreement. This is one aspect to be concerned about if there is any disputes between Jewish parties.
The Importance of Giving for Torah Education
Giving for Torah education is really a must. People leave billions of dollars to universities. Their coffers are overloaded with funds – while some Torah institutions struggle to pay their rebbeim. Giving to Torah education is giving for Jewish continuity – for a Torah education is the most potent of all ways to assure Jewish continuity. Some give 5% or more of their assets to Torah institutions. It is not radical — as some secular moguls say they will give the majority of their wealth to secular causes.
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Drafting a will to leave 5% of your estate for Torah education is a straightforward process, but it requires careful legal drafting to ensure your wishes are carried out correctly. For individuals adhering to Jewish law (\(Halacha\)), creating a separate document known as a Halachic Will is also essential to address specific Jewish inheritance rules.
Disclaimer:
This is for informational purposes and is not legal advice. You must consult with an estate planning attorney and a qualified rabbi to ensure your will is valid and your wishes are honored according to both civil and Jewish law.
How to make the bequest in a standard will
A will must be created and executed according to your local laws. An estate attorney can help you with this. The following is sample language for a bequest. Specify the bequest: Clearly state that you are leaving a specific percentage of your estate to charity. Using a percentage is often recommended over a fixed dollar amount, as it automatically adjusts for changes in the total value of your estate.Identify the beneficiary:
Be very specific about which organization should receive the donation.
For a bequest directed toward “Torah education,” you should name a specific yeshiva, synagogue, or Jewish communal fund.Provide an Employer Identification Number (EIN): To avoid confusion, provide the organization’s EIN, which can be found in the IRS database.
This is particularly important if there are multiple charities with similar names.
Allow for discretionary use:
If you want the gift to be used for the most pressing need, include wording that gives the organization some flexibility in how it uses the funds.
Sample language for a civil will “Five percent (5%) of the residuary estate is given, devised, and bequeathed to [Full, Official Name of Organization], a [State of Incorporation] nonprofit corporation, with its principal place of business at [Street Address], and its Federal Tax Identification Number [EIN]. This gift is for the unrestricted charitable use and purpose of Torah education.”
Integrating Jewish law with a Halachic Will Those who wish for their bequests to be executed according to Jewish law should draft a Halachic Will (sometimes called a Shtar Halfek).
According to Jewish law (\(Halacha\)), a secular will may be invalid, particularly regarding the distribution of assets to heirs. The Halachic Will works with your civil will to ensure that your charitable wishes and the distribution of assets among your heirs align with Jewish law. Consult a rabbi and an estate attorney:
Coordinate these documents with professionals who understand both civil and Jewish law. Do not draft a Halachic Will without rabbinic guidance.Include specific Halachic clauses: The Halachic Will must contain specific legal language and provisions that address potential conflicts with civil law and ensure your requests are carried out.
Explain the charitable purpose:
The Halachic Will can further clarify your intent for the 5% bequest toward Torah education.
Address inheritance discrepancies:
It will also address the differences between civil law, which often divides an estate equally among all children, and Jewish law, which has a different inheritance order (e.g., sons may inherit before daughters).
Key considerations Legal validity:
A properly drafted will is crucial for preventing family disputes and ensuring your intentions are carried out. Working with an attorney ensures your will meets all local legal requirements.
Informing your family:
To reduce the risk of a contested will, inform your family members of your charitable intentions.Notifying the charity: Informing the receiving organization about your planned gift can be beneficial. This allows the organization to thank you and prepare for the future gift. This is typically optional.
A child learns from observation. Observe kind parents – become kind kids. Observe stress – become stressful. Observe Positive environment – become positive.
In Parasha Matos – Benei Gad and Benei Reuven / the tribes of Gad and Reuven – ask Moshe for land outside Eretz Yisrael. They say we want to build pens for our livestock and cities for our children. Moshe corrects them – he says – he will give them the land – so they will build cities for their children and pens for their livestock.
He puts the children’s interest before the livestock. We learn that our children’s interests prime over our career ambitions. One reason why a Jewish person should not consider putting their children in a Public School. Orthodox Torah Day schools – teach children proper Torah values, how to honor parents – how to be a mench (good man) or a good lady. Public schools teach information – not values.
Hash-m will not ask a person – Why didn’t your child get a 100 on his or her math test. He will ask how come your child was not respectful to others. Public schools don’t teach respect.
Once a man was asked to take counsel with a Rabbi – A. Henoch Leibowitz about a marital issue. The woman said her husband was spending too much time doing his Job in Jewish Outreach and neglecting the Family. After hearing both sides the Rabbi concluded that he must spend more time with the family. I think it ended up that he neglected the family and divorced.
Is your children’s Torah education your priority? Do you want to Open the Doors to them reaching their potential – spiritually, emotionally, educationally and allow them to be the best person they can be?
Organizations Like Nechomas Yisrael help parents of public school kids get their children into Torah schools. This is their number 717-893-1343.
A person thinks – when I have enough pleasures or possessions I will be happy. Is that the right formula? Apparently not. We see the wealthy with yachts, cars and travel – they seem happy – but scratch a little deeper and you will find many are not.
There must be a formula. Hash-m – just like a human parent – wants his children to be happy.
The Secret Formula
The formula above is partially correct. We have to add something to this equation – the soul. People think only of the body. But we are composed of a body and a soul. Just like the body has pleasures – the soul also has pleasures it seeks. In reality, we are more a soul than a body. Our essence is our soul.
So if our bodily pleasures and attitudes are in sync with our soul pleasures – we will be happy. If they are not in sync with our soul pleasures it will make the soul sad – and thus following bodily pleasures (that are against the soul’s pleasures) may have the reverse effect on happiness and the emotional state of a person than not doing so.
So what is the real equation for happiness – following pleasures and attitudes that give the soul pleasure will make you happy. People who hate are not happy. People who steal are not happy. People who do good deeds that correspond to what Hash-m wrote in the Torah – give a person happiness. This includes mitzvahs, such as lighting Shabbat candles, keeping kosher, saying food blessings, reciting morning blessings, the Shema Yisrael, praying to Hashem, performing good deeds, learning Torah, helping others, and advancing the cause of authentic Torah Judaism.
That is the secret – that our deeds and attitudes have to correspond to what it says in the Torah for us to be happy. I say this not from just Torah sources (which was given to Moshe by G-d before millions of witnesses on Mount Sinai) but from experience. I have followed both types of pleasures – those that are in sync with the soul’s pleasures and unfortunately those that are not. I learned from the school of knocks.
So want to know if your attitude is in sync with Torah – go ask your local Orthodox rabbi. Jews follow the 613 commandments – as stated in the Shulchan Aruch (code of Jewish law by rabbi Yosef Caro) and non-Jews follow the Seven Noahide laws from the Torah. Start learning about them and you are taking a step in the right direction to becoming a happier person.
Parashat Behar speaks about Shemitah – the commandment for a Jew to leave their land fallow every seventh year. G-d promises that if one does so – he will have a harvest in the sixth year that will be great enough for to cover the sixth, seventh and eighth year. This is the proof that G-d wrote the Torah – no human could promise that a person who intends to let their field rest in the seventh year will receive extra produce in the sixth year.
There is a concept in Torah that defies human logic. Human logic says the more a person works – the more revenue a person gets. In Torah by a Jewish person resting weekly on Shabbat – a person receives blessing for the rest of the week – receiving more money by not working.
This is similar to the Shemitah – a farmer lays his field to rest – allows him to have a better harvest.
In the Gemara of Ketuvot 66b – it talks about Raban Gamliel that saw a woman that was searching for food among garbage piles. This young woman was the daughter of the formerly wealthy Nakdimon ben Gurion. He asked her what happened to her father’s wealth. The gemara says the salt (preservative) for wealth is lacking – meaning by your lack of money by giving to a reputable Torah charity organization, assures your wealth. Nakdimon did not give a sufficient percentage of his wealth to the needy and Torah causes – which caused his wealth to lack salt – preservation.
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A True Story. In all generations we have had great men of the world, who had no doubts whatsoever, either about God or the Holy Torah. Rabbi Jonathan Eybschitz was known as a great genius for his sharp intellect. He lived about 250 years ago in the city of Metz, Germany, and served as rabbi of the city’s large Jewish community. The local hegemon, who persecuted the Jews, as was common in those days, issued an expulsion order for all the Jews of the city of Metz, requiring them all to leave the city immediately. Rabbi Jonathan Eybschitz, in a desperate attempt to save his community, went to the hegemon’s house, hoping that he could convince him to lift the harsh decree. The hegemon, who knew the intellectual capacity of the rabbi of the Jewish community, entered into an argument with him, in which he argued the righteousness of his wicked decision. During the conversation, the hegemon quoted the beginning of a sentence from a certain foreign book, and asked Rabbi Jonathan if he could complete it. And to mention the number of words that appear in that sentence, the hegemon only said the beginning of it, and did not finish saying it. Rabbi Jonathan Eybschitz immediately replied that the number of words in that sentence was the same as the number of letters in the sentence: “The people of Israel live forever and ever” – and he was not wrong. Rabbi Jonathan’s bold and provocative answer did its job: the hegemon did not remain unfulfilled, he asked the Rabbi of the Jews how many Jewish residents live in the entire city of Metz. Rabbi Jonathan answered him: Forty-five thousand, seven hundred and sixty (45,760). With shining eyes, the hegemon smiled and said: As a person who writes amulets, as you are famous for, you must write for me on an amulet the size of a regular mezuzah, the sentence you just said: “The people of Israel live forever and ever” as the number of Jewish residents in the city of Metz! That is: the sentence will appear on the amulet forty-five thousand, seven hundred and sixty times! No less! If you succeed – the Jews will remain in the city of Metz. If you fail – the expulsion will take place, and immediately! Rabbi Jonathan Eybschitz heard this and left the Hagmon. In less than an hour, Rabbi Jonathan Eybschitz returned to the Hagmon with the incredible amulet in his hand. He spread the amulet before the Hagmon and declared to him: If you start reading from the letter “A” in the center of the amulet, and read towards each of the letters “D” in its four corners, you will be able to count forty-five thousand, seven hundred and sixty times the sentence: “The people of Israel live forever and ever”! The stunned Hagmon took the amulet from the rabbi and looked at it in amazement. The result was that the Jews remained in Metz. By the way, it took the Hagmon about a year to count the number of times the sentence actually appears in the amulet!
While there isn’t one universally famous, documented historical event exactly matching the description of writing “Am Yisrael Chai” on a small piece of paper to directly save a large group of Jews, the sentiment and the act resonate deeply with the Jewish experience during times of persecution. The phrase “Am Yisrael Chai LeOlam” (עם ישראל חי לעולם), meaning “The people of Israel live forever,” is a powerful declaration of Jewish resilience and survival.
An AI Story.
Here’s a story that embodies the spirit of Am Yisrael Chai, drawing on the historical context of the Holocaust and the importance of symbols of hope and resistance:
The Hidden Message in the Ghetto
In the heart of a crowded and despairing ghetto during the Holocaust, a young woman named Leah worked in a factory where scraps of paper were discarded. Every day, under the watchful eyes of the guards, she risked her life by secretly collecting these tiny pieces.
Leah’s spirit was heavy with the constant loss and fear that permeated the ghetto. She saw families torn apart, hope dwindling, and the vibrant tapestry of Jewish life being systematically destroyed. One evening, huddled in the darkness of her meager dwelling, a thought sparked within her. She remembered her grandfather, a scholar, who always emphasized the enduring spirit of the Jewish people. The phrase “Am Yisrael Chai” echoed in her mind, a defiant affirmation against the forces trying to annihilate them.
With trembling hands, Leah took one of the small scraps of paper and a piece of charcoal she had managed to scavenge. Slowly and carefully, she wrote the Hebrew letters: עַם יִשְׂרָאֵל חַי – Am Yisrael Chai.
It was a tiny act, seemingly insignificant against the enormity of the Nazi regime. But for Leah, it was a lifeline. It was a way to hold onto her identity, her faith, and the belief that even in the darkest of times, the Jewish people would endure.
The next day, Leah found opportunities to leave these small pieces of paper in places where others might find them – tucked into cracks in the walls, left on abandoned carts, slipped into the pockets of discarded clothing. Each tiny message was a whisper of hope in the suffocating silence of despair.
At first, people were bewildered by the small scraps with the unfamiliar writing. But as more appeared, a sense of curiosity and then recognition began to spread. Some who knew Hebrew understood the powerful message. Others, even without understanding the words, felt a flicker of something – a shared secret, a sign that they were not entirely forgotten, that the spirit of their people was not extinguished.
The small pieces of paper became a silent form of resistance. They reminded people of who they were, of their shared heritage, and of the possibility of a future. It was a subtle act, unlikely to directly halt the machinery of destruction, but it nourished the inner strength and resilience of those who found them.
One day, a young boy named David found one of Leah’s messages. He couldn’t read the words, but the sight of the Hebrew letters, a language his grandfather used to teach him, filled him with a sudden surge of longing and a renewed sense of belonging. He kept the small paper hidden, a precious reminder of his identity.
Years later, after surviving the Holocaust, David carried that small, faded piece of paper with him. He learned the meaning of the words and understood the quiet courage of the person who had written them. For him, it was a symbol of the countless small acts of defiance and hope that helped the Jewish people endure the unimaginable.
While this story is a fictionalized account, it reflects the real spirit of resistance and the importance of symbols in maintaining hope during the Holocaust. The phrase “Am Yisrael Chai” became a powerful rallying cry and a testament to the unwavering belief in the survival of the Jewish people, often expressed in small, clandestine ways amidst unimaginable danger. The act of writing it down, even on the smallest piece of paper, could be an act of profound personal and communal defiance.
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During the Holocaust, Leah, a young Jewish woman, lived in a despairing ghetto. Risking her life daily, she collected discarded scraps of paper at the factory she worked in. Inspired by her grandfather’s teachings and the phrase “Am Yisrael Chai” (The People of Israel Live), Leah wrote the Hebrew letters for this declaration on the scraps using scavenged charcoal. She secretly distributed these tiny messages, leaving them hidden in walls, carts, and clothes. Though small and fragile, they brought hope, identity, and connection to others, silently resisting the forces trying to erase Jewish heritage. Years later, a survivor named David kept one of Leah’s messages as a cherished symbol of resilience and defiance, illustrating how even the smallest acts of courage can sustain faith and unity in the darkest of times. This fictionalized tale embodies the enduring spirit captured in the rallying cry “Am Yisrael Chai.”
